everthing out of the norm is uncomfortable for the society.
our sex is nothing more than a social construction.being a man or a woman is not determined by our birth but by what they have taught us to be.we have learned to be men or women in a culutral and educational context, which sets heterosexuality as a norm.everything that is out of that norm is excluded.
we don't necessarily have to perceive ourselves as either men or women,we can deconstruct it beyond the limitations.
gender is not a natural fact
freud
我们的某些行为受到潜意识的支配，并且未被察觉
there's something more in us that isn't expressed in our conscious behavior.it makes us do things that we aren't used to doing.it makes us thinks about stuffs that we don't want to,makes us feel things that we don't know exactly why we feel them.
this unconcious myth can mark us when we choose our other half.attraction to another person can come from needs and desires and other hidden aspects that form our ego. in fact there are men who unconsciously look for a mother in their partner.
to know some aspects of ourselves that we don't like and don't want to admit, we would all discover many things about ourselves.
如何看待失去他人？
when there is a feeling of loss of a loved one, freud speaks of a path , of a process inwhich the person have to work the pain. the only way to deal with that loss to admit that it is irreparable
为什么嫉妒？
we feel jealous when we believe that someone can steal something of our possession.the jealous one is essentially a possessive person, who wants to have their other half at their disposal as if they were their property.
社会缺乏鼓励心灵的净化
rene descartes
why the things exsit rather than not exsiting?
thing exsit because we give then meaning.
death give meaning to life.
各种主义虽有局限，但是也反向证明了再某些情况下是很有道理的
engels
the family is an instrument of the ideological apparatus of the state.
sometimes the people we love do things that hurt us , you should get used to it because it'll always be like this
sex is animal instinct that we all carry inside
“道德“是否应该成为行动的必要因素？
zizek
since childhood, we are taught that love and happiness go together,but is only happens in fairy tales,love can be cruel.trying to fulfill themselves through the path of love is a social imposition that makes so many people unhappy,they will have amorous disappointment.
today there is an excess of "good feeling".we must say things with tact,have a conciliatory tone so that no one will get offended.
love is one of the few things that can shake us and brings us back to reality.
we konw there are things we cannot say,feelings we don't want to hurt but we can't always act like some pure souls.
if you have to tell them what you think,although it may bother you , you say it. because this connects you to reality.reality is full of uncomfortable truths,contradictions.
love is spontaneous and isn't based on any fantasy that is ingenuous,romantic,naive.
我们找对象都是寻找那些符合我们预期的人“幽默”“合拍”...其实这只是我们在理想化爱情，我们只是在把自己爱的人变成我们想象的模样。我们其实并非爱上了那个人，我们只是爱上了perfect images we make ourselves.
你能想象一个完全纯洁无瑕的人？一个不会排泄肮脏物的人？
true love is opposite,it means to recognize the imperfetion,accept their defects.truly falling in love is a risky bet,true love doesn't idealize the other.